refactor(orm)!: refactor hooks into validate and write hooks (#11185)

* refactor(orm)!: refactor hooks into validate and write hooks

* impl and tests

* docs

* update mock hooks and tests

Co-authored-by: Marko <marbar3778@yahoo.com>

orm/testing/ormmocks/docs.go

@@ -1,5 +1,5 @@
 // Package ormmocks contains generated mocks for orm types that can be used
-// in testing. Right now, this package only contains a mock for ormtable.Hooks
+// in testing. Right now, this package only contains a mock for ormtable.ValidateHooks
 // as this useful way for unit testing using an in-memory database. Rather
 // than attempting to mock a whole table or database instance, instead
 // a mock Hook instance can be passed in to verify that the expected
@@ -9,5 +9,5 @@
 // be used in gomock EXPECT functions.
 //
 // See TestHooks in ormdb/module_test.go for examples of how to use
-// mock Hooks in a real-world scenario.
+// mock ValidateHooks in a real-world scenario.
 package ormmocks